I hate to say it, but finding Jewish singles to date in San Francisco isn’t an easy task.
As Tzippy says, “My husband, Rabbi Shmulik and I are constantly meeting single, talented, ambitious men and women through our once-a-month happy hours, weekly services and personal Shabbat dinners.
After the end of each night, we discuss who would be a potential soulmate for whom.
Finally, while discussing the topic of the ‘dating Jewish guys crisis’ with my two girlfriends, Jessica and Rachel, we decided to let people match themselves up by hosting an Exclusive Singles Shabbat Dinner with 20 men and 20 women!
” Not only was our singles dinner a success, we gained some insights on what can happen when Jewish singles in San Francisco come together. Icebreakers Actually Do Help “Break The Ice.” It might sound cheesy to include icebreakers at a singles event, but preparing a game or an activity actually does help people open up and want to engage with another.
During our Shabbat dinner, for example, we decided to place a brown paper box filled with photos of random images like animals, furniture, food, etc. Everyone in the room had to reach in, choose a picture and then stand up and explain how that image relates to them.
My personal favorite came from a man who had chosen a banana.
He mentioned that just like the image, he has a big banana (this got a lot of laughs). I’ve never been to a singles event in San Francisco where the men actually showed up before the women. I only knew one person when I first moved to San Francisco.
I also enjoyed the remark from a woman with a picture of a gem who noted that she was a “diamond in the rough.” Once the icebreaker had ended, everyone seemed more confident and excited to meet one another. As soon as the Shabbat dinner started, almost all of the men were present. Of course, it’s not necessary to have a drink during a singles event, but I must admit that after a glass of wine or two, men and women seem more comfortable with getting up and talking to one another. Making friends was a must, but working full time didn’t really allow me to meet people outside of the office.
Some were even eager to help us set up the last-minute details (bonus points to them). As soon as our guests had arrived, I encouraged people to open the wine bottles on the tables and have a drink. Unfortunately, we ran out of wine during dinner, so next time we will be sure to be fully stocked. I soon started attending events on the weekends and going on dates regularly.